పేదవాని పెళ్ళాం ఊరందరికీ వదిన

pedavani pellam urandariki vadina

Translation

A poor man's wife is a sister-in-law to the whole village.

Meaning

This proverb illustrates how people in power or those with higher social status often take liberties with or lack respect for those who are vulnerable or lack protection. It suggests that when someone is poor or weak, everyone feels entitled to treat them with over-familiarity or disregard their dignity.

Related Phrases

Mother is poison, wife is jaggery

This expression describes a situation where a person, influenced by their spouse, begins to view their own mother's advice or presence as toxic or bitter, while finding everything the spouse says to be sweet and desirable. It is used to criticize someone who neglects their parents after marriage.

When the King's wife went up to the balcony, the potter's wife climbed onto the attic.

This proverb is used to mock people who blindly imitate others who are far more capable or wealthy, without considering their own status or limitations. It highlights the absurdity of trying to match someone else's lifestyle or actions when one doesn't have the same means.

A poor man's wife is a sister-in-law to the whole village.

This proverb highlights how people tend to take liberties with those who lack social or financial standing. Just as a 'Vadina' (sister-in-law) is someone one can joke with or command in a traditional family, a poor person's family is often treated with a lack of respect or boundaries by everyone in society because they lack the power to protest.

When a poor man is angry, he only bursts his own lips. Anger without power is folly. (German.) Anger makes a rich man hated, and a poor man scorned.

This proverb suggests that when a person with no power or resources gets angry, it only hurts them further rather than affecting others. It is used to describe a situation where expressing frustration is futile because the person lacks the influence to bring about change, often resulting in self-inflicted stress or negative consequences for themselves.

Wife is a piece of jaggery, mother is a lump of clay.

This proverb describes a common human tendency where a person finds their spouse sweet and desirable (like jaggery) while viewing their mother as mundane or unimportant (like common soil/clay) after marriage. It is used to criticize those who neglect or undervalue their parents' lifelong sacrifices in favor of new relationships.

The wife of a forced laborer is a sister-in-law to the entire street.

This proverb describes a situation where someone who is helpless, soft-natured, or lacks social standing is taken advantage of by everyone. Just as a 'Vadina' (sister-in-law) in a traditional sense can be joked with or assigned tasks, it implies that when a person cannot defend their boundaries, the whole community feels entitled to exploit them or treat them with overly familiar authority.

For the wedding of an impecunious (a poor) man, a hailstorm.

This refers to the bad luck of an unfortunate person. When one is in misery, additional troubles come upon one and make one’s life more miserable.

For a poor man, his wife is his only wealth.

This proverb suggests that for someone with no material possessions or financial resources, a supportive and hardworking life partner is their greatest asset and source of strength. It highlights the value of companionship and family over material riches in times of poverty.

A madman's wife is common property. The helpless are mocked and ill-treated.

This proverb describes a situation where a person is weak, foolish, or lacks the authority to protect their own interests or family. Because the husband is a fool, the neighbors or community members do not respect his boundaries and treat his wife with over-familiarity or lack of respect, taking undue liberties. It is used to highlight how a lack of personal strength or character leads to others taking advantage of one's household.

A poor man's anger is a harm to his own lip.

This proverb suggests that when a person with no power or resources gets angry, it only ends up hurting them further rather than affecting the person they are angry at. In practical terms, it means that the weak cannot afford to express anger against the strong as it only brings self-destruction or unnecessary trouble to themselves.