పిలవని పేరంటానికి వెళ్ళితే పీటకోళ్ల దెబ్బ

pilavani perantaniki vellite pitakolla debba

Translation

If you go to a ceremony without being invited, you will be beaten with the legs of a wooden stool.

Meaning

This proverb warns against going to places or interfering in matters where one is not invited or welcome. It highlights the potential for humiliation, insult, or physical hurt when one lacks self-respect or fails to maintain boundaries. It is used to advise someone to avoid unsolicited involvement.

Related Phrases

If one thinks of one thing, God thinks of another.

This proverb is equivalent to the English saying 'Man proposes, God disposes'. It is used to describe situations where human plans fail or take an unexpected turn due to fate or circumstances beyond one's control.

An uninvited gathering and an unannounced fast.

This expression is used to describe someone who attends an event or involves themselves in a situation without being invited. It highlights the awkwardness or inappropriateness of showing up at a social gathering (perantamu) where one's presence was not requested, or starting a religious fast (okkapoddu) without prior commitment or notification.

When she came to the marriage feast she began to enquire how the bridegroom was related to her. i. e. she was enamoured with him. Very unseemly behaviour.

This proverb describes a person who is present at a situation or involved in a task but lacks basic knowledge about the fundamental purpose or the key people involved. It is used to mock someone's ignorance or lack of attention despite being an active participant.

* Zorn ohne Macht wird verlangt.

An uninvited gathering and an unannounced fast.

This proverb is used to describe an unwanted or uninvited guest who arrives unexpectedly. It highlights the awkwardness of someone participating in an event or making a commitment (like a religious fast) without proper invitation or prior notice, often causing inconvenience to others.

Children and the legs of a stool do not feel the cold. To a child all weather is cold.

This expression is used to describe how children are so active and energetic that they don't seem to feel the cold even in winter. Just as the inanimate wooden legs of a stool (peetakoallu) are unaffected by the weather, children playing outdoors often ignore the cold temperature.

Attending a feast to which you are not invited, a fast you are not asked to observe. Fidders' dogs an' flees come to a feast unca'd. (Scatch.)

This expression is used to describe someone who interferes in others' business without being asked, or someone who shows up at an event without an invitation. It highlights the awkwardness or inappropriateness of being involved in something where one's presence was neither requested nor expected.

Coming to the ceremony and asking how you are related to the groom

This proverb describes a person who is involved in an event or task but lacks basic knowledge or awareness of the fundamental details. It is used to mock someone who shows up for an occasion but doesn't even know the primary people involved.

Like going to a wedding while carrying water (neeyi) in one's armpit.

This expression is used to describe a person who carries unnecessary baggage or clings to something burdensome while going to an important or celebratory event. It highlights the absurdity of holding onto something that hinders one's enjoyment or ease during a significant occasion.

Breast milk that hasn't fully come in, and curd that hasn't fully set.

This expression is used to describe something that is incomplete, half-baked, or in an intermediate state where it is neither here nor there. It highlights the uselessness or dissatisfaction caused by things that are not fully developed or finished, such as a task left halfway or a skill that is poorly acquired.

Like inviting a tiger to a social gathering.

This proverb describes a situation where someone voluntarily invites a dangerous or troublesome person into their lives or affairs, essentially creating their own misfortune. It is used when a person's own actions or invitations lead to a predictable disaster or threat.