తల్లి కొట్టినా పెండ్లే, తప్పెట కొట్టినా పెండ్లే.
talli kottina pendle, tappeta kottina pendle.
Whether the mother beats or the drum beats, it is still a wedding.
This proverb is used to describe a person who is so obsessed with a goal or an event that they interpret every action—whether positive or negative—as being related to it. It often refers to someone who is stubbornly optimistic or focused on a single outcome, ignoring the context of the situation.
Related Phrases
శుభం పలకరా పెండ్లికొడకా అంటే.. పెండ్లికి వచ్చిన ముత్తయిదువులంతా నా పెద్ద పెండ్లాలు అన్నాడట!
shubham palakara pendlikodaka ante.. pendliki vachchina muttayiduvulanta na pedda pendlalu annadata!
When asked to speak auspicious words, the groom said all the married women at the wedding are his senior wives.
This proverb is used to describe a person who says something incredibly foolish, offensive, or inappropriate when asked to speak or act properly. It highlights the irony of someone ruining a positive situation by being tactless or utterly lacking common sense.
బోడి నెత్తిన టెంకాయ కొట్టినట్టు
bodi nettina tenkaya kottinattu
Like beating a shaven head with a cocoanut. As used to be done to a Sannyâsi ( religious mendicant ) by his disciples when he was about to die.
This expression is used to describe a situation where someone is being extremely harsh, blunt, or unkind to a vulnerable person. It signifies a lack of empathy or a direct, painful impact on someone who has no protection against the action.
అత్త కొట్టిన కుండ అడుగోటి కుండ, కోడలు కొట్టిన కుండ కొత్త కుండ.
atta kottina kunda adugoti kunda, kodalu kottina kunda kotta kunda.
The pot broken by the mother-in-law was a cracked pot, the pot broken by the daughter-in-law was a new pot.
This proverb highlights double standards and hypocrisy in judgment. It describes a situation where the same mistake is viewed differently depending on who committed it. If someone in a superior position (like a mother-in-law) makes a mistake, it is dismissed as insignificant, but if a subordinate (like a daughter-in-law) makes the same mistake, it is exaggerated and treated as a major offense.
తప్పెట కొట్టిన వాడు దాసరి, శంఖం వూదినవాడు జంగము.
tappeta kottina vadu dasari, shankham vudinavadu jangamu.
He who beats a drum is a Dâsari, he who sounds a conch is a Jangam.
This proverb highlights that individuals are identified and categorized by the specific duties or professions they perform. Just as a Dasari is known for his drum and a Jangamu for his conch, a person's identity and reputation in society are shaped by their actions and the nature of their work.
కొట్టక కొట్టక పక్కలో కొట్టి
kottaka kottaka pakkalo kotti
Striking and striking, but striking in the side.
This expression describes a situation where someone waits for a long time to act, or makes a great effort, only to make a critical mistake or perform the action at the wrong time/place. It is used to highlight a significant failure or a blunder after much anticipation or effort.
వెన్నతో కొట్టిన వానిని రాయితో కొట్టినట్లు
vennato kottina vanini rayito kottinatlu
Like hitting someone with a stone who previously hit you with butter.
This proverb is used to describe an act of extreme ingratitude or an unfair, harsh reaction to a kind gesture. It refers to a situation where a person responds to someone's gentleness or favor with cruelty or hostility.
కోడలు కొట్టిన కుండ కొత్తకుండ, అత్త కొట్టిన కుండ అతుకుల కుండ
kodalu kottina kunda kottakunda, atta kottina kunda atukula kunda
The pot the daughter-in-law broke was a new one; the pot the mother-in-law broke was a patched-up one.
This proverb highlights human hypocrisy and double standards in judging mistakes. It describes a situation where people exaggerate the mistakes of others (the daughter-in-law's mistake is seen as destroying something brand new) while making excuses for their own or their favorites' mistakes (the mother-in-law's broken pot is dismissed as having been old and already broken). It is used to point out unfair bias and blame-shifting.
తప్పెట కొట్టినా పెండ్లే, చప్పెట కొట్టినా పెండ్లే.
tappeta kottina pendle, chappeta kottina pendle.
Whether drums are beaten or hands are clapped, it is still a wedding.
This proverb is used to convey that the ultimate outcome or the essential nature of a situation remains the same, regardless of how grand or simple the process is. It suggests that as long as the primary goal is achieved, the minor details or the level of celebration do not change the core reality.
కోడలు కొట్టిన కుండ కొత్త కుండ, అత్త కొట్టిన కుండ అడుగోటి కుండ.
kodalu kottina kunda kotta kunda, atta kottina kunda adugoti kunda.
The pot broken by the daughter-in-law is a new pot, while the pot broken by the mother-in-law is a worthless pot.
This proverb highlights double standards and hypocrisy in judging actions. It refers to how people often exaggerate the mistakes of others (the daughter-in-law) while minimizing or making excuses for their own or their favorites' mistakes (the mother-in-law).
బోడి నెత్తిన టెంకాయ కొట్టినట్లు
bodi nettina tenkaya kottinatlu
Like breaking a coconut on a bald head
This expression is used to describe a situation where someone is put in a very painful or difficult position, or when a person is exploited or harmed because they are vulnerable or have no protection. It signifies an act that is both cruel and blunt, often catching the person off guard.