తన తనయ ప్రసవవేదనకోర్వలేకుంటే, తన అల్లునిపై అహంకారపడనేల

tana tanaya prasavavedanakorvalekunte, tana allunipai ahankarapadanela

Translation

If one cannot bear their own daughter's labor pains, why be arrogant toward the son-in-law?

Meaning

This proverb is used to criticize hypocrisy or misplaced pride. It suggests that if you cannot tolerate or manage the natural difficulties faced by your own kin, there is no justification for acting superior or being demanding toward those related to them. It highlights the irony of being judgmental while failing to handle one's own basic responsibilities or realities.

Related Phrases

Of what use are discussions on Puranas, Agamas, Shastras, Vedas, and Chanting to those who are already wise and clever?

This expression suggests that for people who possess inherent wisdom, practical intelligence, or true realization (jaanalu), getting bogged down in pedantic scholarly debates or complex religious scriptures is unnecessary. It emphasizes that practical wisdom or intuitive understanding is superior to mere theoretical knowledge or ritualistic expertise. It is often used to point out that over-explaining things to an expert or a naturally intelligent person is a waste of time.

When there is no substance, arrogance is high

This expression is used to describe a person who lacks genuine talent, knowledge, or wealth, but compensates for it with excessive pride or vanity. It is similar to the English proverb 'Empty vessels make the most noise.'

One's own anger is one's own enemy.

This is a popular proverb from Vemana Satakam emphasizing self-control. It means that an individual's inability to control their anger causes them more harm than any external enemy ever could. It is used to advise someone to stay calm and realize that outbursts of rage only lead to personal loss and damaged relationships.

While eating one's own food and wearing one's own clothes, should one fear the village?

This expression is used to assert independence and self-reliance. It implies that if a person is self-sufficient, works hard for their own livelihood, and does not depend on others for basic needs like food or clothing, they do not need to worry about societal criticism or be intimidated by others' opinions.

Nothing has been achieved, but the arrogance is immense.

This proverb is used to describe someone who has no significant accomplishments or status but behaves with extreme pride and ego. It is often applied to people who act superior to others without having the merit or success to back it up.

Just because you say 'Shankara Shankara', will your mouth become crooked?

This proverb is used to mock someone's irrational fear or superstition that performing a simple, good, or harmless act will lead to a ridiculous physical deformity or negative consequence. It is often used to encourage someone to stop making excuses and just do what is necessary.

Dravidian Pranayama

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone takes a complex, roundabout way to do something that could be done simply and directly. It refers to the act of reaching around the back of the head to touch the nose instead of touching it directly from the front.

One's own anger is their enemy; one's own calmness is their protection.

This is a famous moral teaching from Vemana Satakam. It suggests that self-control is the greatest virtue. Uncontrolled anger causes harm to oneself more than others, acting as an internal enemy, while maintaining a peaceful and calm composure serves as a shield against life's troubles.

"Sit properly Mr. Washerman" said one, "Mr. Toddy-drawer, do you hear Mr. Barber's joke ?" said the other. Chaffing between Sātānis, who are Vaishṇava converts from all castes.

This proverb describes a situation where someone takes a simple piece of advice or a direct correction as an insult or a joke. It is used to mock people who are overly sensitive, defensive, or those who try to deflect their own shortcomings by involving others in a petty manner.

Scholarship has the arrogance of knowing everything; wisdom has the humility of knowing nothing.

This expression highlights the difference between mere academic knowledge and true wisdom. Scholarship (Pandityam) often leads to pride because one thinks they have mastered a subject, whereas true wisdom (Vivekam) makes a person realize how much more there is to learn, leading to humility. It is used to encourage lifelong learning and modesty.