వలచి వస్తే మేనమామ కూతురు వావి కాదన్నట్టు

valachi vaste menamama kuturu vavi kadannattu

Translation

When his uncle’s daughter wanted to marry him, he ex- cused himself on the plea that she was not of the right affinity. Proudly refusing, because it was voluntarily offered, a good thing which at another time would have been thankfully accepted. Note. Among Hindus ( especially Kômaṭis ) it is obligatory for a man to marry his maternal uncle’s daughter if there be one.

Meaning

This expression describes people who devalue or reject a precious opportunity or a rightful person just because it was offered easily or without effort. In Telugu culture, marrying a maternal uncle's daughter is a socially accepted and preferred tradition; refusing such a standard match when the person is willing indicates an ungrateful or overly fastidious attitude.

Related Phrases

The maternal uncle knows all about the birth house.

This proverb is used to indicate that there is no need to explain or describe something to someone who is already intimately familiar with it. Just as a maternal uncle knows everything about his own sister's home (his childhood home), an expert or an insider does not need a briefing on their own domain.

Father's younger brother's wife is not a 'Pinatalli', and maternal uncle's wife is not a 'Menatta'.

This proverb is used to highlight that biological relationships and marital relationships carry different emotional weights or social expectations. It suggests that someone who enters the family through marriage might not always share the same innate affection or bond as a blood relative, or it is used to specifically define traditional kinship roles in Telugu culture where specific terms are reserved for biological relations.

The Brahmans' rule for intermarrying is a disgusting rule.

This proverb describes a relationship that is exceptionally strong, unbreakable, and enduring, much like a solid stone. In a cultural context, it refers to the deep-rooted and permanent nature of certain familial or social bonds that cannot be easily severed.

Resemblance of the paternal aunt, a fragment of the maternal uncle.

This proverb is used to describe hereditary traits in children. It suggests that a child's physical appearance or temperament often mirrors their paternal aunt (menatta) or maternal uncle (menamama). It is frequently used by family members when noticing similarities between a newborn or child and their close relatives on both parental sides.

By Maha Shivaratri, the cold departs saying 'Shiva Shiva'.

This is a popular seasonal saying in Telugu culture indicating that the peak winter season ends with the Maha Shivaratri festival. It suggests that the intensity of the cold weather significantly diminishes after this day, marking the transition into spring and summer.

The maternal uncle comes after the mother.

This expression highlights the significance and priority given to the maternal uncle (mother's brother) in a child's life and within the family hierarchy. After the mother, the maternal uncle is traditionally considered the most important guardian and support system in many Telugu households, especially regarding cultural rituals and protection.

When the eccentric woman grew breasts, her maternal uncle lost his eyesight.

This proverb describes a situation where two unrelated events are coincidentally or spitefully linked, or more commonly, a scenario where a positive development for one person results in an unfortunate or jealous reaction/consequence for another. It is used to mock people who cannot bear to see others progress or to describe an absurd, ill-timed coincidence.

Your paternal uncle's wife is not your maternal aunt; your maternal uncle's wife is not your paternal aunt.

This proverb highlights the nuances of relationships and blood ties. It suggests that while people may hold certain titles or positions through marriage, they do not necessarily inherit the same biological significance or emotional depth as the original relative. It is often used to caution against expecting the same level of care or loyalty from relatives by marriage as one would from blood relatives.

Will you boast of your mother's family before your maternal uncle?

This proverb refers to a redundant or unnecessary action. Since the maternal uncle (mother's brother) grew up in that same house, he knows its merits better than anyone else. It is used when someone tries to explain or brag about something to a person who is already an expert or possesses intimate knowledge of the subject.

When she comes to you out of love, saying a maternal uncle's daughter is not a proper relation.

This proverb is used to describe a person who makes excuses to reject something valuable or appropriate simply because it is being offered easily or voluntarily. In Telugu culture, marrying a maternal uncle's daughter is traditionally considered a preferred and valid relationship (menarikam). The saying mocks the hypocrisy of someone who ignores established norms or desires just to be difficult when someone shows genuine affection or initiative.