అంకుమొగుడు కడుపునొప్పి ఎరుగడు

ankumogudu kadupunoppi erugadu

Translation

The step-husband does not understand the labor pain.

Meaning

This expression is used to describe a person who lacks empathy or cannot understand the depth of someone else's suffering or hard work because they have not experienced it themselves. It is often applied to those who reap the benefits of a situation without knowing the struggle involved in creating it.

Related Phrases

The hardship is for the husband, while the joy is for the village.

This proverb describes a situation where one person does all the hard work or bears the suffering, while the benefits or celebrations are enjoyed by others who didn't contribute. It is used to highlight unfair distribution of labor and rewards.

While the horse was eating boiled grains, the donkey got a stomach ache.

This proverb is used to describe someone who feels jealous or envious of another person's success or good fortune, even when it has nothing to do with them. It mocks the irrational pain or resentment felt by observers when someone else is enjoying a benefit.

A stingy husband does not recognize stomach pain.

This proverb is used to describe a person who is so greedy, stingy, or selfish that they ignore the genuine suffering or needs of others. In the context of the saying, a husband who is overly miserly might dismiss his wife's illness just to avoid spending money on treatment or to ensure his own needs are met first. It characterizes blind selfishness and lack of empathy due to greed.

A new beggar doesn't know when the sun sets

This proverb describes a person who is new to a job or position and works with excessive, often annoying, enthusiasm or over-diligence. It is used to mock someone who doesn't know the limits or the 'unwritten rules' of their new role, overdoing things because of their lack of experience.

For the tiger-man, the tickler-man is the husband.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where a strong, fierce, or arrogant person is eventually defeated or outsmarted by someone even more capable or clever. It conveys the idea that no matter how powerful someone is, there is always someone superior who can keep them in check.

Will an unexpected husband even dust the sand off your back?

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone who is not committed or is only temporarily involved in a task will not provide even the smallest help or care. It implies that if there is no genuine bond or responsibility, one cannot expect any support or maintenance from that person.

A new beggar doesn't know the time of day.

This proverb is used to describe someone who is new to a job or position and works with excessive, often misplaced, zeal or without understanding the practical constraints. Just as a new beggar might keep asking for alms at odd hours without realizing when people are likely to give, a novice often overdoes things or lacks the experience to judge the right timing and boundaries.

The one who is liked by the heart is the husband, not just the one who ties the mangalsutra.

This expression emphasizes that true companionship and a husband's status are earned through love, mutual understanding, and emotional connection rather than through the mere ritual of marriage or tying a sacred thread. It is used to highlight that legal or ritualistic bonding is secondary to emotional compatibility.

A husband for appearances only, not for providing happiness.

This proverb is used to describe a situation or person that looks competent or sufficient on the outside but fails to fulfill their primary responsibilities or provide the expected benefits. In a literal sense, it refers to a spouse who maintains the social status of marriage but fails to provide emotional, physical, or financial support. Metaphorically, it is used for any object or person that is decorative but useless in practice.

The man one keeps is not a husband, the child one raises is not a son.

This proverb reflects traditional social views on legitimacy and formal bonds. It suggests that informal relationships or foster care do not equate to the legal and social status of a marriage or biological lineage. It is often used to emphasize that titles or roles earned through convenience or temporary arrangements lack the permanence and sanctity of formal, recognized institutions.