ఆరు రాజ్యాలు జయించవచ్చును గాని అల్లుడిని జయించలేము

aru rajyalu jayinchavachchunu gani alludini jayinchalemu

Translation

One can conquer six kingdoms, but one cannot conquer a son-in-law.

Meaning

This proverb highlights the delicate and often difficult nature of the relationship with a son-in-law in Indian culture. It suggests that while achieving great feats like winning wars is possible through strength, it is nearly impossible to satisfy or control a son-in-law's ego or demands, as he must be treated with utmost respect and patience to ensure the daughter's happiness.

Related Phrases

You can fool some people for some time, but you cannot fool everyone all the time.

This expression emphasizes that while temporary deception or dishonesty might work on a few people, the truth will eventually come out and it is impossible to sustain a lie against everyone forever. It is often used as a warning against dishonesty in leadership or public life.

You can make someone close their eyes, but can you make them dream?

This expression highlights the limits of control and coercion. While you can force someone to perform an external action or follow a rule, you cannot control their internal thoughts, imagination, or true desires. It is often used to emphasize that genuine inspiration or vision cannot be forced.

Through words, one can earn estates or honors.

This expression emphasizes the power of effective communication and eloquence. It suggests that if one speaks wisely, politely, or persuasively, they can gain great wealth, lands, or respect in society without physical labor.

Conquer the six inner enemies - attain the bliss of the self

This expression refers to the six fundamental negative traits (Kama, Krodha, Lobha, Moha, Mada, Matsarya) that prevent spiritual growth. It is used in philosophical or self-improvement contexts to suggest that true happiness and inner peace are only possible when one masters their own desires and emotions.

It is better to fall at the feet of a stranger than to seek help from a close one.

This proverb suggests that when in trouble, seeking help from a relative or a close person can often lead to humiliation, constant reminders of the favor, or indifference. In contrast, a stranger or someone unrelated might help out of genuine compassion without future expectations or social baggage. It is used to express frustration when one's own people fail to support them in times of need.

One can make someone eat bitterness through friendship, but cannot force them to drink milk through power.

This proverb emphasizes that affection and friendship can achieve things that force or coercion cannot. You can convince someone to do something difficult or unpleasant (bitterness) out of love, but you cannot force them to accept even something beneficial (milk) against their will.

You can ignite a fire, but you cannot change a fool.

This expression is used to highlight the extreme difficulty or impossibility of changing a stubborn or foolish person's mind or behavior. It suggests that even performing a difficult physical task like controlling fire is easier than reasoning with someone who lacks wisdom or is unwilling to learn.

With friendship you can make someone eat bitterness, but with force you cannot make them drink milk.

This proverb highlights the power of affection over coercion. It suggests that people are willing to endure hardships or do difficult things for those they love or trust, whereas force and authority fail to make someone comply even with something beneficial.

A mother like lac (sealing wax) and a child like stone.

This expression describes a situation where a mother is extremely soft-hearted, tender, and easily moved (like wax that melts), while her child is stubborn, unyielding, or emotionally hard (like a stone). It is used to highlight the stark contrast in temperaments between a sensitive parent and an insensitive or difficult child.

One can make Goddess Mahakali laugh with words.

This expression emphasizes the power of eloquence and persuasive communication. It implies that through skillful speech, wit, or clever storytelling, one can win over even the most fearsome, stern, or difficult people.