అత్తగారి ఆరళ్ళు కోడలి గారి వేవిళ్ళు.

attagari arallu kodali gari vevillu.

Translation

The mother-in-law's harassments are the daughter-in-law's pregnancy cravings.

Meaning

This proverb is used to describe a situation where one person's suffering or hardship is treated as a triviality or a joke by another. It highlights the power dynamics and lack of empathy in a relationship, specifically referring to how a mother-in-law might dismiss her daughter-in-law's genuine struggles or turn them into something else entirely.

Related Phrases

Even for a widow, morning sickness is unavoidable.

This proverb is used to illustrate that the consequences of one's actions or natural laws cannot be escaped, regardless of one's social status or the scandalous nature of the situation. It implies that certain physical or situational realities are inevitable once a specific path has been taken.

A strict and overbearing mother-in-law has six husbands.

This proverb is used to mock someone who is extremely authoritarian, overly strict, or bossy towards others, implying that their own character or personal life is ironically chaotic, hypocritical, or improper. It is often used to point out the double standards of those who try to control others while they themselves lack discipline.

Even if you bow down to everyone's feet, you cannot avoid going to your mother-in-law's house.

This proverb is used to convey that one cannot escape their inevitable duties or destiny, no matter how much they try to resist or plead. It highlights that certain responsibilities or transitions in life are unavoidable and must be faced sooner or later.

The rancour of a mother-in-law.

This expression refers to the constant nitpicking, psychological pressure, or harassment a woman faces from her mother-in-law. In a broader sense, it is used to describe any situation where someone in a position of domestic authority or seniority constantly criticizes or torments someone under their care or control.

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When asked which way, saying Godavari.

This expression describes a situation where someone gives an irrelevant, nonsensical, or rhyming answer to a question instead of providing the actual information requested. It highlights a lack of connection between the question asked and the response given, often used when someone is being evasive or is completely lost in conversation.

Even for a widow, pregnancy cravings are unavoidable.

This expression is used to signify that certain natural consequences or biological truths cannot be avoided, regardless of one's social status or the scandal it might cause. It highlights that if an action has been taken (or a situation has occurred), the inevitable symptoms or results will eventually manifest, no matter how much one tries to hide the truth.

When asked which way, saying 'Godavari' way.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone gives an irrelevant or nonsensical answer to a specific question, or when there is a complete lack of communication/understanding between two people. It highlights a disconnect where the response has nothing to do with the query.

She is not only the wife of a priest, but is also in an inter- esting condition.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone who is already naturally lazy or reluctant to work finds a convenient excuse to avoid their responsibilities entirely. It highlights how an existing negative trait is worsened by external circumstances.

A double excuse. Applied to idle persons. Sick of the idles. A large sheep thinks its wool heavy. ఆ.

Like the central hall of a teacher's house.

This expression is used to describe a place that is extremely cluttered, chaotic, or filled with many things in a disorganized manner. Historically, traditional teachers (Ayya-vaaru) lived in small houses where the central room served as a classroom, library, and storage, leading to a crowded environment.

If you say 'wet land', they say 'paddy'.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone makes a very obvious or redundant statement. Since paddy is the primary crop grown on wet lands (tari), saying 'paddy' when 'wet land' is mentioned is an unnecessary clarification of the obvious.