అత్త మెత్తన, వేము తియ్యన లేవు.

atta mettana, vemu tiyyana levu.

Translation

A soft mother-in-law and a sweet neem leaf do not exist.

Meaning

This proverb highlights the traditional, often difficult relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It suggests that just as the neem leaf is inherently bitter, a mother-in-law is inherently stern or demanding. It is used to describe situations where something is naturally harsh or impossible to find in a gentle form.

Related Phrases

There is no such thing as a good mother-in-law or a sweet neem tree.

This traditional proverb suggests that certain things are inherently difficult or bitter by nature. Just as the neem tree is known for its bitterness, the mother-in-law relationship was historically viewed as naturally contentious or stern in traditional households. It is used to describe situations where a positive outcome or a pleasant personality is considered impossible due to the inherent nature of the person or role.

A mother-in-law is never soft, and a knife is never soft.

This proverb is used to describe relationships or objects that are inherently sharp or harsh by nature. It suggests that just as a knife's purpose is to cut and it cannot be blunt or soft, a mother-in-law (in traditional contexts) is expected to be strict or demanding, and one should not expect otherwise.

There is no young corn for those who eat the ears.

This proverb serves as a metaphor for lack of foresight and planning. It refers to people who consume resources prematurely (eating the grains while they are still growing in the stalk) and then face scarcity when it is time for the actual harvest. It is used to describe individuals who spend their savings or resources impulsively and suffer in the long run.

There is no softness in a sword, nor goodness in a mother-in- law.

This is a traditional proverb used to describe situations or relationships that are inherently difficult or sharp by nature. Just as a knife cannot fulfill its purpose if it is soft, the proverb suggests that the relationship with a mother-in-law is traditionally expected to be strict or stern rather than purely 'soft' or 'kind'. It is often used to comment on the inevitable friction in certain roles or power dynamics.

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Neither invocation nor dismissal.

This expression refers to someone who is indifferent or neutral towards a situation, person, or ritual. It originates from Vedic rituals where a deity is invited (Avahana) and then sent back (Visarjana). It is used to describe a state where one is neither welcoming nor rejecting something, often implying a lack of interest or involvement.

By eating it repeatedly, even neem becomes sweet.

This proverb emphasizes that through constant practice or persistence, even the most difficult or unpleasant tasks can become easy and enjoyable. It is often used to encourage someone learning a new skill or habit.

No legs to the tale, no ears to the pot. Said of a story that one cannot make head or tail of. A story without a head. (Greek.)

This proverb is used to describe a story, explanation, or excuse that lacks logic, consistency, or a proper foundation. It refers to something that is nonsensical or a 'cock and bull story' where the details don't add up or have no basis in reality.

Like eating the sugarcane along with its roots just because it is sweet.

This proverb describes greed or over-exploitation. It is used to caution someone who, out of liking or benefit, tries to consume or exhaust a resource completely without leaving anything for sustenance or the future, eventually ruining the source itself.

If it's within reach, grab the hair; if not, grab the feet.

This proverb describes a person who is highly opportunistic and inconsistent. It refers to someone who acts arrogant or tries to dominate when they have the upper hand (grabbing the hair), but becomes extremely submissive or begs for mercy when they are in a weak position (falling at the feet).

There is no sweetness in a neem tree within a well.

This proverb suggests that things do not change their inherent nature simply because of their environment. Just as a neem tree remains bitter even if it grows near a source of fresh water like a well, a person's core character or the fundamental quality of a thing remains unchanged regardless of external circumstances.