అత్తవారింటి సుఖము మోచేతి దెబ్బవంటిది

attavarinti sukhamu mocheti debbavantidi

Translation

The pleasure felt in a mother-in-law's house is like a blow on the elbow.

Meaning

This proverb highlights that the comforts or happiness one experiences at their in-laws' house are often fleeting and sharp-lived. Just as a hit to the elbow causes a sudden, intense pain that subsides quickly, the joy there is considered temporary or accompanied by unexpected stings of criticism or discomfort. It is used to caution against relying too much on the hospitality of in-laws.

Notes

Happy is the wife who is married to a motherless son.

Related Phrases

The gruel at one's parental home is better than the riches at the in-laws' house.

This proverb emphasizes that freedom, self-respect, and the unconditional love found in one's birth home are far more valuable than the material wealth and luxury in a place where one might feel restricted or secondary. It is used to highlight that comfort and peace of mind are superior to status or money.

Like licking up to the elbow just because there is jaggery.

This proverb describes someone who is excessively greedy or over-indulgent. It refers to a situation where a person tries to exploit a benefit or resource beyond reasonable limits, often ending up in an awkward or unseemly position because of their lack of self-control.

One day's pleasure is a year's hardship

This proverb is used to warn someone that a brief moment of indulgence or a short-term reckless decision can lead to long-term suffering and difficulties. It emphasizes the importance of thinking about future consequences before acting.

Comfort in the mother-in-law's house is like a hit on the elbow.

This proverb highlights the transient and fragile nature of happiness one experiences at their in-laws' house. Just as a blow to the funny bone (elbow) causes sharp, intense pain that subsides quickly, the comforts or joys found there are often perceived as temporary, superficial, or followed by sudden discomforts/realities. It is used to suggest that one should not get too comfortable or rely entirely on such hospitality.

The strike of a hawk that has dived and the strike of a tiger at a watering hole are unavoidable.

This proverb highlights the inevitability of certain outcomes when an expert or a predator is in their element. It is used to describe situations where a calculated attack or a predetermined consequence is impossible to escape, emphasizing that once a professional or a force of nature commits to an action, success for them (and failure for the target) is certain.

The morning dawns before the shepherds' marriage is begun. They have so many disputes that nothing can be settled.

This proverb is used to describe an event or task that took an excessively long time to complete, or a situation where people were kept waiting or busy until daybreak. It often implies a sense of exhaustion or the completion of a long, drawn-out process.

An elbow hit and a life at the husband's house.

This proverb describes experiences that are briefly painful but must be endured as part of life's inevitable circumstances. Just as an accidental hit on the elbow causes sharp, temporary pain that one quickly moves past, a woman's life in her husband's home (in traditional contexts) involves challenges and adjustments that she learns to tolerate as part of her routine existence.

A son-in-law does not know the poverty of his mother-in-law's house.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where a guest or a person in a privileged position is unaware of the hardships or financial struggles faced by their hosts. Historically, in Indian culture, a son-in-law is treated with the utmost respect and served the best food, often even if the family is struggling. It highlights the facade people maintain to uphold dignity or hospitality.

Putting jaggery in the palm and making one lick it all the way up to the elbow.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone promises or offers something attractive but makes the process so difficult, tricky, or elusive that the person never actually gets to enjoy the benefit. It refers to deceptive behavior or giving someone a 'runaround' while pretending to be helpful.

Is material wealth happiness, or is being in the presence of Rama happiness?

This expression is used to question the true source of contentment, contrasting temporary material riches with spiritual peace or divine proximity. It originated from a famous kirtana by the saint-composer Tyagaraja, who refused royal gifts in favor of his devotion.