కన్న తల్లికయినా కనుమరుగుండవలెను

kanna tallikayina kanumarugundavalenu

Translation

Some things must be hidden even from the mother that bore you.

Meaning

This proverb emphasizes the importance of maintaining certain boundaries, privacy, or modesty even with those closest to us. It suggests that complete exposure or lack of restraint, even in the most intimate relationships, can lead to a loss of respect or dignity.

Notes

* Ἀπέφαλος μῦθος.

Related Phrases

Even cold water should be drunk slowly.

This expression advises extreme caution and patience. It suggests that even when a situation seems safe or simple, one should still act with care and verify everything before proceeding, rather than acting in haste.

There is a pun here on the word చల్లాచుకోని which also means "having cooled." Nothing should be done hastily. Good and quickly seldom meet. Haste trips up its own heels.

Though the slippers be of gold they can only be worn on the feet.

This proverb emphasizes that everything and everyone has a designated place or status. No matter how valuable or expensive something is, it cannot change its fundamental nature or bypass certain protocols. It is used to suggest that people should stick to their roles or that some things, regardless of quality, are still subject to certain limitations.

After conception there's nothing for it but to bring forth.

This proverb is used to convey that once a responsibility is taken or a process has started, one must see it through to the end regardless of the difficulties. It emphasizes that certain consequences or duties are inevitable once a particular path is chosen.

A work undertaken must be completed.

When we hear of Dâl and rice we should run for it, even though it be hundred miles off. Said of a greedy Brahman.

This proverb highlights the immense value and comfort of a simple, wholesome meal like dal-rice (pappannam). It is used to describe how someone is willing to go to great lengths or travel long distances for something they truly cherish or find satisfying, often used in the context of food or simple pleasures.

You should do good even to him who has done you evil. " If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink." Proverbs xxv. 21.

This proverb emphasizes the virtue of forgiveness and kindness. It teaches that even if someone does you wrong or acts as an enemy, you should respond with goodness and help rather than seeking revenge or harboring ill will. It is the Telugu equivalent of 'return good for evil.'

* Σενίων δὲ τε Θυμος ἀριστος.

The death of an aunt is better than the death of a mother.

This proverb is used to highlight the difference in the magnitude of loss. It suggests that while any loss is unfortunate, the loss of someone closer or more essential (like a mother) is far more devastating than the loss of someone relatively less central (like a stepmother or aunt). It is often used to prioritize or compare two negative outcomes, indicating that one is comparatively more bearable than the other.

Tears for the birth mother, envy for the stepmother.

This proverb contrasts true empathy with jealousy. It implies that while a birth mother (or a true well-wisher) feels genuine sorrow for one's struggles, a stepmother (or a rival) feels envious of one's success or status. It is used to describe situations where some people are saddened by your pain while others are spiteful of your happiness.

The son must flourish, and the daughter-in-law must become a widow.

This proverb describes a paradoxical or impossible desire, highlighting human selfishness or hypocrisy. Since a woman can only become a widow if her husband (the son) dies, wishing for both simultaneously is a logical contradiction. It is used to mock people who want all the benefits for themselves without accepting the necessary consequences, or those who harbor ill will that would ultimately hurt their own interests.

One should do good even to those who have done harm.

This proverb emphasizes the virtue of forgiveness and kindness. It suggests that instead of seeking revenge against those who hurt us, we should maintain our integrity and respond with helpfulness or benevolence.

If you touch the bullock, you must touch the soil.

This proverb emphasizes the necessity of hard work and physical labor to achieve results. It implies that if one engages in agriculture or any significant task (symbolized by the bullock), they must be prepared to get their hands dirty and work the land (the soil) to see success.