కాపురం చేసే కళ కాలు తొక్కేటప్పుడే కనిపిస్తుంది

kapuram chese kala kalu tokketappude kanipistundi

Translation

The quality of the domestic life is visible right at the moment of the foot-stepping ceremony.

Meaning

This proverb suggests that the future success or quality of a venture can be predicted by its very first signs or beginnings. In a traditional wedding context, it refers to a ritual where the bride steps on a grindstone, symbolizing her entry into the household; the saying implies that one's character or the outcome of a situation is evident from the start.

Related Phrases

To see the world of Lord Indra from a single blow.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone experiences a sudden, severe shock or a powerful physical blow that leaves them dazed, stunned, or momentarily unconscious. It implies that the impact was so intense that it made them see stars or transported them to another realm (Devendra Lokam/Heaven) due to the intensity of the pain or surprise.

Will a household that fell into the Ganges ever reach the shore?

This proverb is used to describe a situation or life that has been completely ruined or devastated beyond recovery. Just as something swept away by a powerful river like the Ganges is unlikely to be recovered, a family or business that has faced total downfall due to bad habits or extreme misfortune rarely returns to its former glory.

Arundhati star is not visible, but the six hundred debt is certainly visible.

This proverb describes a situation where a person is so overwhelmed by financial burdens or practical troubles that they cannot focus on spiritual or auspicious things. In Telugu weddings, looking at the Arundhati star is a sacred tradition; this saying mocks a person who, instead of focusing on the ritual, is distracted by the debt incurred for the wedding.

If burnt, it leaves a scar; if heated/tempered, it becomes soft.

This proverb highlights the difference between harshness and patience. It suggests that reacting with extreme anger (burning) causes permanent damage or scars in relationships, whereas treating a situation with controlled, gentle persistence (tempering/heating) makes things pliable and manageable.

Asking feels shameful, but not asking results in a heavy burden (or an empty stomach).

This proverb describes a dilemma where one feels embarrassed to ask for help or their due, but staying silent leads to hardship or suffering. It is used to encourage someone to overcome their hesitation and speak up for what they need.

I can't see the star Arundhati, botheration take it! I can see nothing but a debt of sixty pagodas. Said by a man who had got over head and ears in debt for his marriage, when the priest pointed out the propitious star.

This proverb is used to describe a person who is so overwhelmed by their financial troubles or immediate material problems that they cannot focus on spirituality, beauty, or traditional rituals. 'Arundhati' refers to the star often pointed out during weddings as a symbol of virtue; here, it signifies spiritual or higher pursuits that are ignored due to the crushing weight of debt.

Clear your debts and then live in the marketplace.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of financial freedom and peace of mind. It suggests that once a person is free from debt, they can live fearlessly and confidently anywhere, even in a busy or public place like a market, without the shame or fear of facing creditors.

Hardships do not live (stay) with you forever

This expression is used to offer comfort and hope during difficult times. It signifies the transient nature of problems, suggesting that just as joy is temporary, suffering and struggles will also eventually pass and are not permanent fixtures in one's life.

When times are not favorable, even one's wife can bite like a scorpion

This proverb describes the misfortune of bad timing or a period of bad luck. It suggests that when one is going through a terrible phase in life, even the most trusted people or reliable things will turn against them or cause unexpected harm. It is used to express how everything seems to go wrong simultaneously during hard times.

The mother-in-law's atrocities are visible, but the daughter-in-law's mischievous acts remain unseen.

This proverb highlights a common social bias where the mistakes or harsh behavior of an elder or authority figure (the mother-in-law) are easily noticed and criticized, while the subtle provocations or mistakes of the subordinate (the daughter-in-law) are often overlooked or ignored. It is used to describe situations involving one-sided blame or biased perception in domestic or social conflicts.