పొరుగుమ్మ సరిపెట్టుకుంటే, ఇరుగమ్మ ఉరిపెట్టుకుందట

porugumma saripettukunte, irugamma uripettukundata

Translation

When the neighbor managed with what she had, the other woman hanged herself.

Meaning

This proverb is used to criticize people who indulge in unnecessary competition or unhealthy comparisons. It describes a situation where one person tries to imitate or outdo another's lifestyle or circumstances beyond their own capacity, often leading to their own downfall or misery.

Related Phrases

When the lady of the West Street wore a gold lace (sari), the lady of the North Street supposedly hanged herself.

This proverb is used to mock people who are excessively envious or competitive. It describes a situation where someone cannot tolerate another person's success or luxury to such an extreme extent that they cause harm to themselves out of pure jealousy.

When told to keep quiet, he reportedly hanged himself.

This proverb is used to describe a person who overreacts excessively to a small suggestion or a minor reprimand. It highlights the absurdity of taking extreme, self-destructive measures when asked to do something simple or trivial.

A pearl if touched, gold if held.

This expression is used to describe someone or something of exceptional quality, value, or purity. It is often used as a compliment for a well-behaved child, a virtuous person, or a piece of work that is flawless and precious.

Like saying, 'Uttarayanam has arrived, now go hang yourself.'

This proverb is used to describe someone who gives bad, sarcastic, or destructive advice under the guise of an auspicious or positive occasion. Uttarayanam is considered a highly sacred period in the Hindu calendar where dying is believed to lead to salvation; however, advising someone to commit suicide just because the timing is 'good' is absurd and malicious.

In the month of Pushya, even a blade of grass does not get wet.

This expression refers to the peak of the winter season in the Telugu calendar (Pushya Masam). It describes the extreme dry cold where there is no rain at all, emphasizing that during this specific period, the weather remains consistently dry and chilly.

The husband one is married to, the jewelry one is wearing.

This expression highlights the items or people that truly belong to a person and provide real security or status. It is used to emphasize that only what is legally yours or physically in your possession can be relied upon in times of need or social standing.

A child in arms won't stop crying even if you hit it.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where one is forced to endure a burden or responsibility they have voluntarily taken up. Once you have committed to helping someone or taking on a task (lifting the child), you must bear the consequences and difficulties (the crying/trouble) that come with it until the end.

The woman who has gives to the woman who has; the woman who has not also gives to the woman who has.

This proverb describes a social irony where resources or gifts tend to flow towards those who are already wealthy or powerful, rather than to those in need. It highlights that everyone seeks to please the rich, while the poor are often ignored or even forced to give up what little they have to those above them.

When a thief who steals and eats was taken as a partner, he stole everything and hid it in his bundle.

This proverb warns against trusting a person with a known history of dishonesty or theft. It implies that if you enter into a partnership or trust someone who is habitually untrustworthy, you shouldn't be surprised when they eventually betray you or steal your belongings. It is used to describe situations where someone suffers a loss due to their own poor judgment in choosing associates.

When a peer wore a gold border, the village woman hanged herself.

This proverb describes extreme envy and unhealthy competition. It is used to mock someone who tries to imitate others' prosperity beyond their means or feels so much jealousy toward a peer's success that they resort to self-destruction or extreme frustration.