పుణ్యం కలిగిన మగని చేసుకొంటే, పూసలలోనికొక రుబ్బుడురాయి

punyam kaligina magani chesukonte, pusalalonikoka rubbudurayi

Translation

If you marry a virtuous husband, a grinding stone is added to your jewelry beads.

Meaning

This ironic proverb describes a situation where instead of things getting better through a supposed benefit, they become significantly more burdensome. It is used when someone expects comfort or luck but receives a task or problem that is heavy and difficult to handle, much like a heavy grinding stone being strung amongst delicate beads.

Related Phrases

Like a thread within the beads

This expression describes something that is pervasive and essential but remains hidden or invisible. It is often used to describe the underlying unity in diversity or a subtle, constant presence that holds everything together.

An upset wife and a wet cot both become rigid.

This proverb describes the behavior of people or things when they are in an unfavorable state. Just as a rope cot tightens up and becomes difficult to manage when it gets wet, a wife who is upset or offended becomes stubborn, unyielding, and difficult to reconcile with. It is used to remark on the uncooperative nature of someone who is sulking.

Like a tongue in the head, and a thread through the beads.

This expression describes someone who is indispensable, highly influential, or deeply integrated into a group. Just as a tongue is essential for speech and a thread holds beads together, it refers to a person who acts as a central, reliable figure or a mediator who maintains unity and functions smoothly within a family or organization.

One should marry leaving the relation of a sister and avoiding the relation of a mother.

This is a traditional Telugu proverb used to explain marriage alliances and exogamy. It signifies that one can marry a girl who doesn't fall into the category of a 'sister' (like a paternal uncle's daughter or maternal aunt's daughter) or 'mother' (certain maternal clan relations) according to cultural lineage rules. It emphasizes following social and biological protocols in matrimonial matches.

Where there is a fault, there is also compassion.

This expression suggests that forgiveness and mercy are most relevant and necessary precisely where a mistake or crime has occurred. It is used to advocate for a humane approach or empathy toward those who have erred, implying that justice should be tempered with grace.

Even if the sky breaks or an eye is lost, you will not stop doing it.

This expression is used to describe an extremely stubborn person or someone who is persistent to a fault. It suggests that regardless of major disasters or personal injury, the individual refuses to change their course of action or stop a specific behavior.

The merit that one does not attain even by dying in Kashi is achieved simply by stepping into Kalahasti.

This proverb highlights the supreme spiritual significance of Srikalahasti temple. It suggests that while dying in the holy city of Kashi (Varanasi) is traditionally believed to grant liberation, simply visiting or entering the town of Kalahasti is considered even more powerful or auspicious in the local religious tradition.

A good deed done with a pure heart, even if small, is never insufficient.

This expression emphasizes that the intention and sincerity behind an action are more important than the scale or quantity of the deed. It suggests that merit earned through sincere devotion or selfless service is never wasted and holds immense value, regardless of how minor it may appear.

O Mahâdêva! what a man does, that does he in full receive.

This proverb is the Telugu equivalent of 'As you sow, so shall you reap.' It implies that individuals are solely responsible for the consequences of their actions, whether good or bad. It is often used to suggest that one's current situation is a direct result of their past efforts or deeds.

Is there a shortage of footwear for the children of the wealthy?

This proverb suggests that for people with abundant resources or power, even their smallest needs are easily met without effort. It is used to describe a situation where someone influential never lacks support, opportunities, or basic necessities, implying that luxury and convenience come naturally to those in high positions.