వగచినట్టే ఉండాల, వాడి ఆలితాడు తెగినట్లే ఉండాల.

vagachinatte undala, vadi alitadu teginatle undala.

Translation

One must look like they are grieving, but his wife's wedding thread must also be broken.

Meaning

This proverb describes extreme hypocrisy or malicious intent disguised as sympathy. It refers to a person who pretends to be sad about a tragedy while secretly wishing for, or even causing, the worst possible outcome for another. It is used to mock people who act like well-wishers but harbor deep-seated enmity.

Related Phrases

The food in the pot should remain untouched, but the children must grow.

This proverb describes a situation where someone wants to achieve a result without any expenditure or effort. It is used to criticize unrealistic expectations or stinginess, highlighting that you cannot expect growth or progress if you are unwilling to use the necessary resources.

It is like four people laughed, and it is like my word is fulfilled.

This proverb is used sarcastically to describe a situation where someone's advice or prediction was ignored, leading to a public failure or an embarrassing outcome. It highlights the irony of being 'proven right' only after a disaster has occurred, where the 'satisfaction' of being right is overshadowed by the mockery or laughter of the crowd.

He said Ekadasi (11th day) feels just like licking Chaviti's (4th day) armpit.

This expression is used to describe someone who lacks common sense, experience, or the ability to distinguish between significantly different situations. Both Chaviti and Ekadasi are fasting days in the lunar calendar, but the speaker's comparison is crude and nonsensical, highlighting their ignorance or uncouth nature.

One should either have authority in the village or land on the village outskirts.

This proverb highlights the importance of social status or convenience in one's place of residence. Having authority gives power and respect, while owning land near the village limits (close to home) ensures agricultural convenience and prosperity. It is used to suggest that for a comfortable and influential life, one needs either administrative power or valuable, accessible resources.

The food in the pot should remain in the pot, but the child should become as strong as a boulder.

This expression describes a situation where someone expects results or growth without any investment or sacrifice. It is used to mock people who want to keep their resources intact while expecting a great outcome, highlighting the impossibility of achieving something for nothing.

When asked to say something auspicious, Mankenna replied, 'What do I care whose rope snaps? If I get my funeral food, I will lie down like a corpse near the wedding pots.'

This proverb is used to describe a person who is extremely selfish, insensitive, or pessimistic. Even when asked to participate in a positive or auspicious event, they only think about their personal gain or dwell on grim outcomes (like death/funeral food). It highlights a lack of social responsibility or basic decency in their attitude.

A kite with a broken string

This expression is used to describe a person who is directionless, lacks control, or is wandering aimlessly without any support or guidance. It can also refer to someone who has suddenly become free from constraints but is now unstable or lost.

It should look like grieving while also applying a branding iron.

This proverb describes a hypocritical or clever action where someone pretends to sympathize with a person while simultaneously causing them harm or delivering a harsh punishment. It is used to describe situations where a person acts out of self-interest or discipline under the guise of concern.

If the small name-thread breaks, the big name-thread will also break.

This expression suggests that if a small problem or minor connection is severed, it can lead to the destruction of a larger, more significant relationship or structure. It is often used to warn that neglect of small things can lead to a domino effect, resulting in a major loss.

There should be either fear or devotion

This expression is used to emphasize that a person should be governed by some form of discipline. It implies that if one does not have genuine respect (devotion) for authority or rules, they should at least have a fear of the consequences of breaking them. It is often used in contexts of parenting, workplace management, or social conduct to suggest that a complete lack of both leads to chaos or irresponsible behavior.