Mother

Drink the mother's milk, drink the earth's water, and become a blessed person.

This expression emphasizes the natural progression of life and a person's duty to their roots. It suggests that one is nurtured first by their mother's milk and then sustained by the resources of their motherland. To be 'blessed' or 'successful' (Dhanyudu), one must acknowledge these foundations and live a life that honors both the biological mother and the earth/homeland.

The mother who blinks too much will ruin the house.

This is a traditional proverb or superstition suggesting that a person who blinks excessively or has a flighty, unstable gaze may bring bad luck or mismanagement to a household. It is used metaphorically to describe individuals who lack focus or are untrustworthy in managing responsibilities.

Some things must be hidden even from the mother that bore you.

This proverb emphasizes the importance of maintaining certain boundaries, privacy, or modesty even with those closest to us. It suggests that complete exposure or lack of restraint, even in the most intimate relationships, can lead to a loss of respect or dignity.

* Ἀπέφαλος μῦθος.

Will the love for a daughter be the same as the love for a daughter-in-law?

This rhetorical question or proverb highlights the natural bias or difference in affection often found in families. It implies that a mother's innate love for her biological daughter is rarely matched by her feelings for her daughter-in-law. It is used to describe situations where there is perceived partiality or to acknowledge that certain bonds are naturally deeper than others.

Glad that father is getting remarried, but worried about the strife of a stepmother for mother.

This expression describes a bittersweet or conflicting situation where one aspect brings joy but another aspect brings significant trouble or pain. It is used when a benefit to one person causes hardship for another close to them, creating a dilemma where one cannot fully celebrate.

A daughter's behavior reveals the mother's character.

This expression suggests that a child's upbringing and behavior serve as a reflection of their parents, specifically the mother in this context. It is used to imply that the virtues or flaws of a mother can be seen through the actions and nature of her daughter.

Honor not given by the husband, pampering not done by the mother.

This expression refers to something that is impossible to obtain or non-existent. It highlights that if a husband doesn't respect his wife and a mother doesn't pamper her child, one cannot expect to find those feelings from anyone else in the world. It is used to describe a situation where the most basic or essential support is missing.

The back of the woman who heard burned, the stomach of the woman who gave birth burned.

This proverb contrasts the depth of empathy with biological maternal pain. It means that while a casual observer or neighbor (the one who heard) might feel a superficial or outward sympathy (back burning), only a mother (the one who gave birth) feels the true, deep, internal agony (stomach burning) when a child is in trouble. It is used to describe how a mother's suffering for her children is incomparable to anyone else's.

The lady who has daughters is given a chair, but the lady who has sons has to lean against the wall.

This traditional proverb highlights the cultural observation that daughters often provide better care, comfort, and emotional support to their parents in old age compared to sons. While sons were traditionally preferred for lineage, the saying suggests that daughters ensure their mother sits comfortably (chairs), whereas sons might leave her with no place but the outside of the house (eaves).

No matter how strong or great a man is, he is subordinate to a woman.

This expression suggests that regardless of a man's physical strength, social status, or outward power, he ultimately has a vulnerability or softness towards the women in his life (like a mother, wife, or daughter). It is often used to highlight the subtle influence and domestic power women hold over even the most formidable men.

The mother will look at his belly the wife at his back. The mother will look to see how her son fares, the wife to see what her husband has brought home for her. Come but come stooping.

This proverb contrasts the different perspectives of love and dependency. A mother's love is selfless, worrying if her child has eaten enough (stomach), whereas a wife's perspective (historically in this context) might be focused on the provisions or earnings the husband brings home (the load on the back). It highlights the transition from being cared for to having responsibilities.

* 'Ακέφαλος μυθος. † II domandar costa poco.

The mother looks at the stomach, the wife looks at the pocket.

This proverb contrasts maternal love with the practical expectations of marital life. It suggests that a mother's primary concern is always her child's well-being and hunger, whereas a wife (metaphorically) focuses on the husband's financial stability and ability to provide for the family.

One who trusts his mother and one who trusts the earth (land) will never be ruined.

This proverb highlights the reliability of two foundational elements: one's mother and the earth. It suggests that a mother's guidance and love are selfless and protective, while agriculture (or staying rooted to the land) provides a sustainable livelihood. Those who remain loyal to their roots and respect these life-givers will always prosper and never face ultimate downfall.

Wife is a piece of jaggery, mother is a lump of clay.

This proverb describes a common human tendency where a person finds their spouse sweet and desirable (like jaggery) while viewing their mother as mundane or unimportant (like common soil/clay) after marriage. It is used to criticize those who neglect or undervalue their parents' lifelong sacrifices in favor of new relationships.

A field without a fence and a child without a mother are the same.

This proverb highlights the importance of protection and care. Just as a crop field without a fence is vulnerable to being destroyed by animals or intruders, a child without a mother lacks the primary source of protection, guidance, and nurturing needed to thrive safely in the world.

When the mother dies, a man's gluttony is seen; when the head is dirty, [ a woman's ] top-knot is large [ and untidy ]. As long as the mother lives her son's greediness is concealed.

This proverb highlights how certain losses or neglects can create a false or superficial appearance of growth or prosperity. In the first part, it implies that without a mother's care and balanced feeding, a child might develop a bloated stomach due to malnutrition or poor diet, which is not true health. In the second part, it suggests that unwashed, tangled hair might look voluminous, but it is actually a sign of poor hygiene rather than healthy hair growth. It is used to describe situations where something looks substantial or 'big' only because of neglect or underlying problems.

The cooling of the ploughed soil is the true cooling - mother's milk is the true milk.

This proverb highlights that certain things are incomparable and original in their value. Just as ploughed land retains moisture and nutrients essential for crops, mother's milk is the ultimate nourishment for a child. It is used to emphasize the importance of foundational or natural things over artificial or secondary alternatives.

Partiality belongs to a mother and to the earth. A mother is partial to some of her children, and the earth is unequal in its favors, bringing forth more for one than for another.

This proverb highlights the inherent bias or favoritism found even in the most fundamental figures of care. It is used to express that preference exists everywhere, suggesting that a mother might favor one child over another, just as the Earth might yield more fruitfully in one spot than another. It is often cited when someone feels treated unfairly or observes natural inequalities.

If the mother is a hunchback, will her love also be a hunchback?

This expression means that a person's physical appearance, status, or flaws do not diminish the purity and depth of their love or character. It is used to emphasize that inner virtues and emotions are independent of external physical attributes.

The mother's skill/state is revealed at the threshold.

This expression suggests that the true state, character, or management of a household can be judged immediately upon entering the house (at the doorstep). It is often used to imply that the first impression or outward appearance of a place reflects the competence and nature of the person in charge.