అత్తకును శాంతంబు, కత్తికిని మెత్తన కలదె
attakunu shantambu, kattikini mettana kalade
Does a mother-in-law have patience, or does a sword have softness?
This traditional proverb highlights the stereotypically harsh relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in olden times. It suggests that just as a sword is inherently sharp and never soft, a mother-in-law is inherently demanding and lacks patience toward her daughter-in-law. It is used to describe situations where someone is naturally stern or an environment that is unforgiving.
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కత్తికి మెత్తన, అత్తకు మంచి లేదు.
kattiki mettana, attaku manchi ledu.
There is no softness in a sword, and no goodness in a mother-in-law.
This is a traditional Telugu proverb used to describe situations where something is inherently harsh or impossible to find. Just as a blade cannot be soft by its very nature, the proverb suggestively reflects the stereotypical historical tension in households where a mother-in-law is never satisfied with her daughter-in-law, no matter how hard she tries.
అత్తా అత్తా కొడుకును కంటానంటే, వద్దంటానా అందట
atta atta kodukunu kantanante, vaddantana andata
When a daughter-in-law asked her mother-in-law if she should give birth to a son, the mother-in-law replied, 'Would I ever say no?'
This expression is used to describe a situation where someone asks for permission or proposes something that is obviously beneficial or desirable to the listener. It highlights a rhetorical question where the answer is an emphatic 'yes' because the outcome favors everyone involved.
కట్టెను కంపా కాల్చేవాడు
kattenu kampa kalchevadu
One who burns even the bundle of sticks and thorns.
This expression refers to an extremely stingy, ruthless, or destructive person who leaves nothing behind. It describes someone who exploits a resource or situation to the very last bit without any regard for future use or mercy, often used to characterize a person's extreme greed or harsh nature.
ముదిత చను మెత్తనైనా, అధికారం మెత్తనైనా రోతురు
mudita chanu mettanaina, adhikaram mettanaina roturu
If a woman's breast is soft, or if authority is soft, people will despise it.
This proverb suggests that just as softness is expected in some contexts, in administration or leadership, being too 'soft' or lenient leads to a loss of respect. It implies that a ruler or person in power must be firm to maintain order, otherwise, the subjects or subordinates will disregard their authority.
అత్త మెత్తన, కత్తి మెత్తన ఉండవు
atta mettana, katti mettana undavu
A mother-in-law is never soft, and a knife is never soft.
This proverb is used to describe relationships or objects that are inherently sharp or harsh by nature. It suggests that just as a knife's purpose is to cut and it cannot be blunt or soft, a mother-in-law (in traditional contexts) is expected to be strict or demanding, and one should not expect otherwise.
కత్తి మెత్తనా అత్త మంచీ లేదు.
katti mettana atta manchi ledu.
There is no softness in a sword, nor goodness in a mother-in- law.
This is a traditional proverb used to describe situations or relationships that are inherently difficult or sharp by nature. Just as a knife cannot fulfill its purpose if it is soft, the proverb suggests that the relationship with a mother-in-law is traditionally expected to be strict or stern rather than purely 'soft' or 'kind'. It is often used to comment on the inevitable friction in certain roles or power dynamics.
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ఎద్దు ఈనిందంటే కొట్టాన కట్టమన్నాడట
eddu inindante kottana kattamannadata
When told that a bull has given birth, he asked to tie the calf in the shed.
This proverb describes a person who blindly reacts or believes something without thinking logically. Since a bull (male) cannot give birth, a rational person should question the statement first. Instead, the person in the proverb immediately suggests a next step, showing gullibility or a lack of common sense. It is used to mock people who follow instructions or rumors without verifying the facts.
తన కోపమె తన శత్రువు తన శాంతమె తనకు రక్ష.
tana kopame tana shatruvu tana shantame tanaku raksha.
One's own anger is their enemy; one's own calmness is their protection.
This is a famous moral teaching from Vemana Satakam. It suggests that self-control is the greatest virtue. Uncontrolled anger causes harm to oneself more than others, acting as an internal enemy, while maintaining a peaceful and calm composure serves as a shield against life's troubles.
నాలుక కటువు, ఎద మెత్తన
naluka katuvu, eda mettana
Hard tongue, soft heart
This expression describes a person who speaks harshly or bluntly but possesses a very kind, compassionate, and gentle nature internally. It is used to characterize someone whose outward behavior might seem rude or strict, yet their intentions and character are deeply caring.
వారకాంత జనంబులకు వావి గలదె?
varakanta janambulaku vavi galade?
Do those who are public women (prostitutes) have any sense of family relationship or kinship?
This classical expression or proverb is used to suggest that individuals who lack character or those who treat relationships purely as transactions do not respect or recognize moral boundaries or family ties. It is often used to criticize someone's lack of integrity or their disregard for social and moral decorum.