చాదస్తపు మొగుడు చెపితే వినడు, చెప్పకుంటే కరుస్తాడు

chadastapu mogudu chepite vinadu, cheppakunte karustadu

Translation

An over-fussy husband doesn't listen if told, and bites if not told.

Meaning

This proverb describes a person who is extremely difficult to please or deal with. It refers to someone who ignores advice when it's given, but then gets angry and blames others for not informing them when things go wrong. It is used to characterize people with a stubborn, irrational, or fussy temperament.

Related Phrases

If the crying woman's husband returns, my husband will return too.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone waits for others to act or succeed before taking initiative themselves, or a situation where one's fate is tied to the general outcome of a group. It is often used to mock someone who lacks independent drive and simply follows the crowd's luck or progress.

If the weeping widow's husband returns, mine will come also. Stolid indifference. Want of feeling.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone's own success or progress is entirely dependent on another person's outcome. It reflects a state of helplessness or a wait-and-see approach, implying 'if it can happen for them, it will eventually happen for me too.'

A committed sin goes away if it is told.

This expression suggests that confessing one's mistakes or sins relieves the burden of guilt and leads to forgiveness. It is used to encourage honesty and transparency after making a mistake, implying that keeping a secret only worsens the moral weight of the action.

A foolish minister, and a clumsy retinue, to a perverse king.

This proverb describes a situation where an entire administration or team is incompetent. If the leader is irrational or stubborn, they often surround themselves with fools and old-fashioned, narrow-minded people, leading to total chaos and failure.

[ The monkey ] may either kill the louse, or bite off the ear.

This expression is used to describe an unpredictable person who oscillates between extremes—someone who can be insignificantly helpful or harmlessly quiet one moment, and then suddenly do something aggressive, harmful, or unexpected the next. It highlights a volatile or inconsistent personality.

He left without telling the fruit or the bed.

This expression is used to describe someone who leaves a place very suddenly, secretly, or without informing anyone. It implies a quiet or abrupt departure where no one was given notice.

Like asking someone to keep talking until dawn when asked for a small favor.

This proverb describes a situation where someone is asked to do a simple or unpaid task (Vetti), but they try to drag it out or demand excessive details, making the task unnecessarily long or burdensome. It is used when a person complicates a simple request or when a helper becomes a nuisance by over-extending their involvement.

Customary mothers and fastidious sisters.

This expression is used to describe a group of people who are overly obsessed with rituals, orthodox customs, and unnecessary rigidness (fastidiousness). It is often used humorously or mockingly to point out when people are making life difficult for themselves and others by strictly following trivial traditions or being excessively picky about how things are done.

An over-fussy husband doesn't listen if told, and bites if not told.

This expression describes a person who is extremely difficult to please or deal with due to their irrational and contradictory behavior. It is used to refer to individuals who ignore advice or instructions when given, yet become angry or reactive when they are left out of the loop or not informed about the same matter.

The master lacks two qualities - he cannot think for himself, and he doesn't listen when others tell him.

This expression is used to describe a stubborn or foolish person who lacks common sense and refuses to take advice. It highlights a person who is both incapable of independent thought and unwilling to accept guidance from others, making them impossible to help or work with.