పెట్టినపోసిననాడే చుట్టాల రాకడ, కలిమిగలనాడె వారకాంత వలపు.

pettinaposinanade chuttala rakada, kalimigalanade varakanta valapu.

Translation

Relatives arrive only on the days you serve food and drinks, and a courtesan's love lasts only as long as you have wealth.

Meaning

This proverb highlights the fickle and opportunistic nature of certain relationships. It suggests that many people are attracted to you only for your resources or prosperity. Relatives might visit when they expect a feast or favor, and a mistress or fair-weather friend shows affection only when you are wealthy. It serves as a warning to distinguish between true well-wishers and those who are purely transactional.

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