పీతాంబరము ఎరువిచ్చినమ్మ పీట వెంబడి పట్టుకొని తిరగవలసినది.

pitambaramu eruvichchinamma pita vembadi pattukoni tiragavalasinadi.

Translation

The woman who lent her silk garment had to follow the seat everywhere.

Meaning

This proverb describes a situation where someone provides a valuable resource or favor to another, but then becomes so anxious or overbearing about its care that they end up constantly hovering over the recipient. It is used to illustrate how excessive strings attached to a favor can make the help more burdensome than beneficial for both parties.

Related Phrases

When someone pulls the leg, hanging onto the eaves of the roof.

This proverb describes a person who is extremely stubborn or desperate to stay in a position or relationship even when they are being forcefully removed or rejected. It signifies a tenacious, often annoying, refusal to let go despite clear opposition.

The giver is a housefly, the receiver is a tiger.

This proverb highlights the irony and unfairness in certain transactions or interpersonal dynamics. The person who gives or lends something is often timid, weak, or hesitant (like a fly) when asking for it back, while the person who received it becomes aggressive, demanding, or fierce (like a tiger) when it is time to return the favor or the item.

Lending a silk saree and then following them around carrying a low wooden stool.

This expression describes a situation where someone helps another person or lends them something valuable, but then becomes overly anxious or intrusive about its safety. It refers to a person who, after doing a favor, constantly hovers over the recipient to ensure their belongings aren't damaged or soiled (the stool is meant for the person to sit on so the saree doesn't touch the ground). It is used to mock those who can't trust others even after offering help.

The lady who lent a woman a silk cloth, must walk after her with a stool. If you lend any thing good to a careless person you must take measures to prevent his spoiling it, as the silk cloth would have been spoiled had the woman sat upon the ground.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone lends a valuable item to another person but remains so anxious about its safety that they end up constantly monitoring or chasing after the borrower. It highlights the regret or burden that comes with lending something precious to an unreliable or careless person.

Ropes after bullocks. Taken to tie them up with. Providing one's self with what is necessary.

This expression is used to describe things that are inseparable or situations where one thing naturally and inevitably follows another. Just as ropes are tied to bulls for control and move wherever they go, certain consequences or associated items always accompany a specific person or action.

A ghost follows even a thief.

This proverb suggests that bad luck or haunting consequences follow those who commit wrongdoings. Even a person as cunning or elusive as a thief cannot escape the supernatural or psychological repercussions (guilt or bad karma) of their actions.

When the poor man was about to anoint his head, it began to hail. Difficulties always attend an unfortunate person. He who is born to misfortune stumbles as he goes, and though he fall on his back will fracture his nose. (German.)

This proverb describes a streak of extreme bad luck. It is used when a person who is already suffering or in a poor state attempts to improve their situation or do a simple task, only to be met with an even bigger, unexpected disaster that makes things worse.

Give honor, get honor.

This expression emphasizes the principle of reciprocity in social interactions. It means that if you want others to treat you with dignity and honor, you must first treat them with the same respect. It is commonly used as advice to maintain healthy relationships and personal reputation.

Education without a school - Farming without supervision

This proverb highlights that certain tasks require discipline, guidance, and constant presence to yield results. Just as education is difficult to acquire without a structured school environment, farming cannot be successful if the farmer does not personally supervise or attend to the fields. It is used to emphasize the importance of direct involvement and systematic effort in any endeavor.

Like saying 'Narayana' while following the tail

This expression describes a situation where someone blindly follows or agrees with someone else without thinking for themselves. It refers to a person who lacks an original opinion and simply mimics or supports whatever a more dominant person says or does, often in a submissive or sycophantic manner.