Daughter-In-Law

This proverb is used to describe people who waste money extravagantly just to show off their status or wealth, often paying far more than what a service or item is actually worth. It highlights vanity and the lack of financial prudence in those trying to maintain a high social image.

This expression is used to describe a situation where someone asks for permission or proposes something that is obviously beneficial or desirable to the listener. It highlights a rhetorical question where the answer is an emphatic 'yes' because the outcome favors everyone involved.

This proverb describes the delicate and difficult nature of a woman's life in her husband's home. It suggests that she must be extremely careful, balanced, and tactful in her behavior to avoid conflicts and maintain harmony, as even a small mistake can lead to trouble, much like a sword dance.

This proverb is used to describe someone who, upon gaining a small amount of power or a slightly elevated position, immediately begins to act with excessive pride or makes premature, arrogant demands. It highlights the behavior of people who lose their humility the moment they achieve even a minor status.

This proverb implies that people will eventually return to their roots, their inherent nature, or the place where they belong based on their background and circumstances. It is used to describe a situation where someone's actions are predictable given their professional or familial environment.

This proverb is used to describe a temporary sense of freedom or authority. It refers to a situation where someone enjoys power or pleasure only because their superior or person in charge is momentarily absent, and they know the fun will end the moment that authority figure returns.

This proverb suggests that characteristics are often inherited or influenced by origins. Just as a buffalo's value is judged by its milk production, a daughter's character and qualities can often be understood by observing her mother. It is used as a piece of advice when considering marriage alliances or evaluating someone based on their upbringing and lineage.

This is a humorous and sarcastic proverb reflecting the traditional domestic tensions in joint families. It suggests that a daughter-in-law feels most peaceful and free when she is not under the supervision or restrictions of her in-laws, particularly the mother-in-law who historically held authority over the household.

This traditional expression highlights the difference between a woman's life at her parent's house (puttinillu), where she is often pampered and carefree, versus her life at her in-laws' house (mettinillu), where she faces responsibilities, restrictions, and sometimes hardships or criticism (arallu).

This proverb is used to criticize the act of judging an entire family or group based on the perceived physical flaws or mistakes of a single individual (specifically a new entrant like a daughter-in-law). It highlights that one person's traits do not define or diminish the status of the whole collective.

This expression highlights the material expectations and value placed on relatives based on the assets or dowry they bring into a family. It implies that such individuals are often given more respect or importance because of their financial contribution. It is used to describe the transactional nature of some familial relationships.

This proverb is used to describe things that are persistent or situations that lose their initial charm quickly. It suggests that just as the aloe vera plant stays green and fleshy for a long time without drying up easily, the 'honeymoon period' or the special treatment a new daughter-in-law receives is very brief before she is expected to handle all household responsibilities.

A daughter-in-law is never a stranger.

This proverb is used to highlight deceptive appearances or temporary states. It suggests that a mother-in-law appears quiet and gentle only when she is exhausted (otherwise she might be authoritative), and a new daughter-in-law appears virtuous only because she is in a new environment and hasn't shown her true colors yet. It warns not to judge a person's permanent nature based on fleeting circumstances.

This proverb is used to express the reality that one's influence or claim over their own children does not automatically extend to their children's spouses. It highlights the natural distance or lack of blood relation between a person and their daughter-in-law, suggesting that one cannot expect the same level of loyalty or belonging from her as they do from their son.

This proverb emphasizes the value of hard work and the negative consequences of idleness. It suggests that while a daughter who is overly pampered and stays idle becomes weak or 'breaks down' when faced with reality, a daughter-in-law who works hard gains strength, skill, and resilience. It is used to teach that active labor leads to prosperity and character building, whereas laziness leads to decline.

This is a humorous and sarcastic proverb describing a bitter daughter-in-law's prayer. The 'six-legged creature' refers to a common housefly or a louse, implying that while she wants the goddess to do a huge task (taking the mother-in-law away), she only intends to offer a trivial, worthless sacrifice in return. It is used to mock people who ask for big favors but are unwilling to give anything significant back.

This proverb describes unfair partiality or double standards within a household. It refers to a situation where a woman treats her husband poorly (giving him a small, rough leaf to eat from) while showing excessive hospitality or preference toward her son-in-law (giving him a large, premium banana leaf). It is used to mock people who value outsiders or guests more than their own family members.

This proverb is used to describe a situation where someone meets their match in terms of cunning, greed, or mischief. It implies that no matter how difficult or domineering a person is, they will eventually encounter someone even more formidable who can outdo them. It is similar to the English expression 'to meet one's match'.

This proverb describes a situation where a person shows a delayed, insincere, or hypocritical emotional reaction. It is used to mock someone who pretends to care about a loss or an event long after it happened, or when their reaction is clearly performative rather than genuine.

This proverb highlights the human tendency to favor the new or the younger generation over the old. It describes a situation where the mother-in-law (representing the old/worn out) is discarded or undervalued, while the daughter-in-law (representing the new/productive) is meticulously valued and welcomed. It is used to mock people's opportunistic or biased nature.